Behind the Scenes: How I Communicate With Spirit

I know it can be hard to understand how a medium can not only perceive spirits but also sustain the energy needed to engage in meaningful conversations with them. That’s why, in today’s blog post, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my communication process with spirit.
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Every medium has their own methods—what resonates with one may not work for another. With that in mind, I’ll share my approach to spirit communication and what I’ve learned along the way.
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On “Natural-Born” Mediums

I’ll be honest: I find the term “natural medium” a little misleading. Does it imply there are “artificial” mediums? In most cases, when people describe themselves as natural-born mediums, they’re referring to an ability to see or communicate with spirit since childhood.

Others discover their gifts later in life, often after a significant or traumatic event—a near-death experience, a profound loss, or a dark night of the soul. More often than not, these individuals realize they’ve always had spiritual experiences but had repressed or ignored them. In truth, they were “natural” mediums all along; they simply hadn’t tapped into their abilities yet.
As children, many of us connected with spirit easily and without technique. We didn’t question it—we simply felt or saw spirit. The challenge was that we didn’t know we had any control over these abilities, and that lack of understanding made the experiences frightening. Those with support or mentorship fared better than those of us who navigated this world alone.
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This is why training becomes essential—especially for those pursuing mediumship as a profession. It’s not just about learning how to communicate with spirit; it’s also about maintaining your own health, practicing ethical boundaries, and understanding what you can and cannot share with a client.
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Why Training Matters

Training isn’t just about developing your abilities—it’s about learning how to use them responsibly. As mediums, we’re bound by ethical and legal guidelines. We must avoid offering medical, legal, or financial advice, and we must learn how to deliver sensitive information in a way that doesn’t traumatize clients.

Just because I can see the details of a spirit’s passing doesn’t mean I should share every detail. Part of my work is discerning what information is meant for me and what is meant for the client. Training fine-tunes this discernment.
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My Story

​As a child, I didn’t understand that I had control over my abilities. With no guidance or support, I was completely open to the spirit world—often experiencing its darker, low-vibrational side. Earthbound spirits were drawn to me, and darker entities became a part of my everyday life.

Some of these entities tried to persuade me to harm myself with horrific imagery. What I didn’t realize then was that I was protected by powerful forces of light. Even though those voices were overwhelming, I had strength within me that I didn’t yet recognize.

During this time, I frequently dreamed of a beautiful black panther—even though I disliked cats because our neighborhood was overrun with feral ones. Years later, I learned that one of my main guides is a shapeshifting feline spirit. When I need protection, she appears as a black panther; when I need nurturing, she takes the form of a yellow Florida panther.
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After a traumatic event in adulthood, my abilities reawakened. I realized I couldn’t walk around with them wide open and unprotected, so I sought training with established mediums. They seemed unafraid of their gifts, and I hoped they could teach me how to develop and embrace mine.
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Developing My Process​

Over the years, I’ve studied under many teachers—some well-known, others quietly impactful. Each helped me shape my own process. If you’re developing as a medium, know this: you don’t have to copy your teachers verbatim. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and create a process that feels natural to you.
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Not all mediums work the same way. I’m primarily clairvoyant (I see), while someone else may be more clairaudient (they hear). It’s important to honor your unique gifts and avoid comparing yourself to others.
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How I Prepare for a Reading

Meditation is essential for any spiritual practice—mediumship, psychic work, or healing. Before a reading, I take a few minutes to quiet my mind, clear away distractions, and raise my vibration to match spirit’s frequency. This helps create a clean, open channel for communication.

If I’m connecting with crossed-over spirits, I elevate my vibration. When working with earthbound spirits, I lower my vibration slightly to meet theirs—but I always ensure I’m protected during this process. When helping an earthbound spirit cross over, I raise my vibration again to invite angels and loved ones to assist.

Music is another tool I use to shift my energy. Uplifting songs help me prepare, while soft, meditative music grounds me before opening up to spirit.

I also begin every session with an opening prayer of intent. This signals to spirit that I’m ready to work and helps align us in purpose.
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Once my client arrives, I tune into their energy as well. Seeing a medium can be nerve-wracking, so I help them relax and raise their vibration before we begin. This creates a three-way conversation between me, the client, and spirit.

What It Feels Like to Connect

For me, spirits usually enter from behind my right side and move around to my front. Angels, archangels, and higher beings present themselves directly in front of me, surrounded by glowing light.

Although I sometimes see spirit with my physical eyes, it’s often clearer through my third eye—the mind’s eye. I feel their presence through tingling sensations, pressure, or emotional impressions, especially in my heart and solar plexus chakras. Sometimes, I can even feel them touch me or share their emotions directly.

During a reading, I use all four major clairs—clairvoyance (seeing), clairsentience (feeling), clairaudience (hearing), and claircognizance (knowing)—with clairvoyance and clairsentience being my strongest. Spirits share their memories, sensations, and messages with me so that I can relay them to my clients.

This is why I prefer not to read for people I know—I want to ensure the information I provide comes directly from spirit, without prior knowledge.

A Small Exercise

​Here’s a glimpse of what spirit communication feels like.

Close your eyes and recall a happy memory—a wedding, the birth of a child, or a fun family event. See the details: what people were wearing, what colors surrounded you, any scents or sounds from that day. Feel the joy in your heart and the tingling in your stomach.
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This immersion in memory—the imagery, the emotions, the sensory details—is similar to how I experience spirit communication. The memories don’t belong to me; spirit shares them with me so I can pass them on to their loved ones.
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The Reality vs. Hollywood

​Spirit communication is rarely as dramatic as it appears in movies. It’s usually subtle—soft impressions, gentle nudges, sensory snapshots. When I was still developing my abilities, my experiences were intense because spirit needed to break through my resistance. But as I opened up, their messages became clearer and gentler.

Final Thoughts

I hope this post gives you a clearer understanding of what it’s like to communicate with spirit. It’s not a terrifying event like Hollywood portrays. Spirits are generally respectful of our space, waiting for permission to come closer.
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Mediumship, at its heart, is about healing—helping people realize that death is an illusion and that the soul lives on. It’s an incredible honor to facilitate that connection and to witness the love and healing that flows between the living and those who have crossed over.